I visibly cringe every time I see or hear the term, “suffers from a Personality Disorder.” While it does seem as if those Cluster B disordered folk appear to have a lot of anger and insecurities, their “suffering” pales in comparison to the suffering they inflict on others. I think the term would be more accurately stated as, “is an incurable selfish jerk.”
Changes to: Janice’s children suffer immensely because Janice is an incurable selfish jerk who bullies, controls and intentionally stunts them so they will be incapable of living without her.
Changes to: Carl has beaten his wife down so badly that she contemplates suicide daily because Carl is an incurable selfish jerk who derives sadistic enjoyment out of being mean.
It seems to me as if those folk who are classified as having Cluster B Personality Disorders don’t really suffer that much at all. Instead, they developed coping mechanisms to rid themselves of human qualities such as Empathy, Sympathy, Compassion, Integrity and Remorse. Basically, their coping mechanisms rid them of normal human “suffering”, except when their abhorrent behaviors eventually result in a natural consequence (jail, divorce, etc.) for THEM.
I think it’s time we call them what they are: Jerks
Pam McCoy is a writer, author and co-host of Crazybusters.