Eliminate the Crazy in your life!
Hi! My name is Cindy, and I just recently found this site, after I did a Google search for “How to argue with a narcissist”. If you are familiar with the term, then you probably already know that it’s not possible or advised to take on said argument. Sadly, I wish I would have known that 9 1/2 years ago, before I made the mistake of marrying one.
I am looking forward to learning more about how to heal from this, while still living with the soon to be ex. I am very very sad that my marriage is ending, because deep down inside, I feel like I love my husband very much. Unfortunately, I can no longer continue to live the way we have been living, and as I have just educated myself on what a narcissist actually is… I cannot fathom that this marriage can be sustained!
I hope that I am able to take all of the information and suggestions and apply them successfully to the work I have ahead of me! Thank you for allowing me to partake in this group!
Hi Cindy. Welcome.
I, like you, had over 9 years of dealing with a Narcissist but only when I realised what she was did I fully understand that I’d been duped and was living a lie. Thanks to Dr T and shrink4men.com I was able to educate myself and get the courage to leave.
10 months later and 3 visits to court and I’m finally being allowed to have quality time with my children. The fake accusations of hurting them and not feeding them etc only added to the “fun” of the process.
Anyway, having gone low contact I’m starting to heal and life us slowly getting better. I will admit it hasn’t been easy but I had no option. Dr T has a good article detailing the preparations required to leave a NPD partner. I found it incredibly useful.
Good luck and God bless.
Oh, and you’re right about arguing with a Narcissist. I don’t ever remember winning a single argument!!!
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