July 4, 2017 at 11:15 pm #1373
Glad to have found this space. I feel like I’ve been dealing with my DH’s crazy ex for way too long and I’m feeling like an idiot for putting myself in this situation in the 1st place. I have no other drama in my life except for the one this woman brings and I kick myself every time I have to deal with her and her nonsense, and for not running the opposite direction when I had the chance.
Here’s a bit of background. I’ve been with my DH for 3 yrs and this is the 2nd marriage for both after being married for a little over 20yrs to our ex’s. My DH’s ex has been harassing him non stop since they separated in 2011, claiming he “abandoned” her and their 4 (now adult) children, although she was the one that filed for divorced. He’s received thousands (yes thousands) of emails and texts from her as well as hundreds of calls, none having to do with DH kids. In these exchanges, she accuses DH of infidelity, child and spousal abuse, homosexuality, theft, prostitution, philandering, and the list goes on an on. Interestingly enough these accusations seem to happen right after DH ignores one of her many pleas to reconcile (yep I’ve been married to DH for 2 yrs and she’s still actively pursuing him).
This woman has created over 14 email addresses, 30+ phone numbers (thanks to apps to spoof phones). She’s showed up at my husband place of work 3x in spite of being escorted out by security. Has showed up at our place of residence at random times of the day. In her mind she’s still DH’s “real wife” (she suffers from hyper religiosity too), therefore the law doesn’t apply to her.
We have court orders injunctions and a victim advocate case against her; she’s received a multiple warnings from the Attorney General, however no one will do anything until she becomes physical. DH has changed his email address 3x, blocked all her email addresses and multiple phone #’s, yet she finds a way to get his new information. She’s gone as far as stealing her younger’s daughter cell phone to get DH number and email address. She’s even gotten a hold of my address so I too have had to endure her attacks.
She’s so out of control that 3 of her 4 kids will have nothing to do with her (she kicked them out, when she found out, they were communicating with DH and even had her youngest son arrested); her own sister and father will not speak to her after she accused her sister of having an affair with her boyfriend (oh I forgot to mention that through out most of this Crazy had a BF); she did so right after her sister was diagnosed with colon cancer (her sister has been married for over 15 yrs). She has had to quit 5 jobs (after being reprimanded for misconduct) and moved 8 times in the last 3 yrs.
I’m at my wits end with this woman and I’m angry at DH for putting me in this situation. We even had to give his kids a different email and phone number because she’s stolen her daughter’s phone or has logged into her computer to get the new numbers and emails. Her excuse for the incessant quest to contact DH, is that they have 4 children together therefore she should be able to communicate and met with DH anytime (mind you her exchanges never have anything to do with the kids).
I can keep going for days (my original post was a few pages long). I’m just glad to find a place where I can learn how to deal with this nonsense.
July 5, 2017 at 8:09 pm #1375
- This topic was modified 6 months, 2 weeks ago by mmarte76. Reason: Grammar
It’s good to know we are not alone. We are not the crazy ones. We are here to support each other. I am so happy I have found this site! I understand about ex’s all too well.
Now I have an adult daughter with NPD and her Flying Monkey brothers, who defend her. I am the “bad mom” I don’t know if this was learned or if it’s genetic. I just know that she has it and it came from her father. I divorced him and I can divorce them too. The sad part is they all are using the grandkids as weapons against us….(I remarried, to a wonderful guy.) The only thing I can do is accept it and move on with my life. I will save a lot of money at Christmas time. I won’t lie it does hurt. But what can you do? Nothing. No Contact at all.
Good Luck to you mmarte76.October 12, 2017 at 8:48 am #1459
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